When a person has a strong sense of self confidence, he or she is more likely to achieve what they’ve set out to accomplish. They feel rooted in themselves. Although there might be problems, they feel good. They believe in themselves enough to know that they can work through problems and succeed at what they set their minds to.
This can be true for sobriety too. When you feel confident in your ability to achieve a goal, you’re more likely to achieve. When you feel confident in who you are, you feel more inwardly prepared to faced whatever comes your way.
However, the truth is, most addicts don’t feel confident. They might struggle with unworthiness, low self esteem, shame, guilt, and lack of belief in themselves. They might need to work at strengthening their self-confidence, building their self-esteem, and healing any feelings of guilt and shame. When a person feels good about who they are, he or she is more likely to accomplish their recovery goals.
If you’re in recovery from addiction, here are a few ways to begin to build your self confidence:
Learn about who you are. Part of building self confidence is knowing what makes you you. This might seem trite, but understanding your strengths and weaknesses, for example, can help you in your relationships. Knowing what your strengths are can add to a sense of feeling good about yourself. Knowing your weaknesses can also add to self-confidence. In fact, being able to admit your weaknesses is in itself a certain kind of strength.
Avoid comparing yourself to others. When you already don’t have believe in yourself, comparing yourself to others is the first thing that weakens self-confidence. You might find that when you’ve gotten to know who you are, you won’t compare yourself to others as often.
Make friends that support your sobriety. Finding new sober friendships can not only support your sobriety, it can also support your feelings of confidence, resiliency, and strength, which can be help prevent relapse. In fact, friends can help us see ourselves. For instance, in friendships, we might more easily recognize what our strengths and weaknesses are.
Work with a mentor or sponsor. Someone who is regularly encouraging you is another way to boost your self confidence and strength in sobriety. Hearing compliments and words of validation, which a mentor often does, can help with believing in who you are.
Set goals for yourself that you know you can achieve. Little by little, as you continue to set goals and reach them, you’re more likely to see yourself confidence improve.
Self confidence plays a major role in the success of recovery. As mentioned above, when you feel strong in yourself, you can accomplish just about anything – including sobriety!
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